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say sorry to Stephy (存錄)


不知道發生了甚麼事, 也不管這個道歉有多真心, 總之這篇賠罪文章就是圓滑得體得不得了, 既溫柔又堅決, 立場寸步不讓, 說話卻令人受用.

(當然, 在一個讀歷史的人眼中, 總疑心一個人越曉得說話, 他的話就越不令人放心.)

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袁彌明, I want to say sorry to Stephy:

I am sorry. I want to say sorry to Stephy.

But first of all, I want to say sorry for writing this in English. I do not want people to think that I am trying to be superior writing in English. I really want to apologize as quickly as possible and the only way I can do it quickest, is in English. As my Chinese typing would not do in the same velocity as in English.

I was lucky to stay out of Hong Kong's education system after getting so-so grades at HKCEE.

By the time I got to University, I discovered that I was not so dumb after all. In fact, I think if the same opportunity was given to Stephy, she would have done even better than I did.

Form 5. Form 5 became the full stop to so many people's education in Hong Kong not because they are not talented, but simply because the education system in Hong Kong is broken.

Broken by the government.

So you might ask. Why did I try to say that Stephy was intellectually lacking when I know full well it wasn't her, but the system that is broken.

I was angry. I love books, but I let my emotion took control. I disagree completely that reading a few pages of a book would allow someone to decide how good a book is.

I always believed, like dealing with men, unless you read the whole book, to the very last page, the book might turn out to be good or bad.

I knew that by attacking someone's education back ground, that in our diseased culture, it would hurt. It would hurt someone's emotion. For that I am wrong.

But let me be clear. Even if a professor or a PhD were to say that a book can be decided by a few pages, I would still disagree. Just as strong.

I hope very much Stephy will forgive me for being too emotional. And I have learned the lesson not to be vindictive about one's education. For after all, going to a lot of schools does not mean one is smart, and not going does not make one any less so.

16 Comments:

:: Anonymous  (29.05.07, 22:31   ) sagt...

是真的寫堅定而得體, 這並不是一件易事。



:: Blogger sf (29.05.07, 23:12   ) sagt...

出來工作這麼久, 越來越覺得寫得薛寶釵一樣得體的信/email非常重要. 可惜我這個屈雷錘總是二話不說.



:: Blogger 七十樓危危下望 (30.05.07, 10:34   ) sagt...

都可以話係得體既
不過

由於我係一個富於閱讀經驗的人
我會說
stephy 篇訪問話 stephy 自己睇幾頁就知道本書好唔好睇
完全無問題
大佬
好唔好睇係感覺黎架嘛
睇果個人話自己睇緊果本書好唔好睇乜乜物物已經係終極意見
大家去買書都係睇幾頁就因應果幾頁既印象覺得好睇唔好睇然後就會決定買定唔買
睇書睇幾頁然後話好唔好睇
根本係人之常情
亦無須要話因為某人話自己睇幾頁就知道本書好唔好睇就話某人唔尊重作者
衣個回應
將事情提升到尊重層面
係高招

恕我小人
我認為如此回應
更突顯了撰文者對 stephy 的不善意

說真的
我初在生果看見 stephy 的那篇訪問亦很不以為言
但眼珠一轉:
1) 篇野係由記者執筆的;
2) 如上述所說,就算佢真係咁講,亦無問題


女兒家呢
真係好小心眼的,亦善妒 (得,我都係)

同埋
well
所有女人,都係同行 (邊個講既呢?向邊篇小品到講既呢?嘻嘻)



:: Blogger 易亦 (30.05.07, 12:29   ) sagt...

先生呢招欲擒先縱欲踩先讚真係好絕!

比我既感覺好似d摔角手將對手高高舉起然後狠狠地鋤落自己屈曲左既膝頭到咁狠!

紫色頭相對之下呢就溫柔得多喇!



:: Blogger sidekick (30.05.07, 23:42   ) sagt...

我都唔覺呢篇好喎... (可能因為我英文唔好) :p

冇睇蘋果篇訪問, 冇睇袁小姐之前篇文, 淨係見"人在中環"講過呢件事, 知道o左個大概.

早兩日去o左袁小姐個blog睇o左幾篇文. 感覺麻麻.
同stepy決定買唔買一本書一樣, 我係o個d 睇o左幾篇文就決定訂唔訂個blog o既人, 唔通又話咁樣就唔尊重個blogger 咩! 傻!
:p



:: Blogger sf (31.05.07, 02:18   ) sagt...

小踢, 很久沒有聯絡, 沒想到你會過來打打招呼呢.

講番呢篇道歉信, 不如這樣說, 假設你要堅持話睇幾頁就知本書好唔好係唔尊重作者, 而同時你又覺得擺明咁話人地讀書少係唔應該. 在這兩個條件下, 我覺得咁樣講法已經係寫得好好格勒. 比著我, 連咁都寫唔到呀.

--

易亦小姐, 別把我句句話都說得別有用心咁啦. 其實我係個好無機心, 好純情的人來嫁. 我個幾句話, 句句都係真個喎. 唔係反話來嫁.

--

紫色頭, 如果真係要認真講, 咁, 從字裡行間, 我多少覺得佢的確是看不起對方, 說到底還是著意人地學歷低, 自尊心作祟不願與他平起平坐.

圓滑得體O者, 無話唔准有骨個喎. (好明顯, 我係到死撐.)

才女呢樣野, 真係希臘神話裡頭的金蘋果囉.

"所有女人,都係同行" 知啦知啦----張愛玲丫麻. (係都唔提個篇小品ngak.)



:: Blogger sf (31.05.07, 02:26   ) sagt...

小踢, 講多句, 即係咁. 所謂本書好唔好, 可以有好多意思, it is a good book, or it is a good book for her, 就已經好唔同.

講到睇幾頁揀書呢家野, 我估倉海君一定有n咁多心得講.



:: Blogger 七十樓危危下望 (31.05.07, 10:15   ) sagt...

金蘋果???
哇好深丫你
你係咪想話呢
才女呢個由外人賦予的稱號
會無端端掀起戰爭呀

------
(創作時間)
木馬要屠城
馬力就同隻馬講
well
馬馬
你記住 1) 2) 3) 4)

先係屠城丫
如果唔係
我實
叉論住你呀馬馬



:: Blogger sf (31.05.07, 12:40   ) sagt...

紫色頭,

金蘋果
有幾深丫
啫呢
連"所有女人都係同行"你都識咯

金蘋果
你又點會唔明啫

才女黎丫麻

女兒家呢
善妒 (你講嫁下)
自負的女兒家呢
對才女之名
更善妒
你認唔認丫?



:: Blogger 七十樓危危下望 (31.05.07, 12:48   ) sagt...

查實自負的女兒家呢
咩都妒架喎
你試下亂講野丫拿
我妒火中燒
燒鬼左你隻船佢丫


男人啊男人
女兒家呢
當然
對「靚女」二字
比「才女」二字
更善妒呀



:: Blogger sf (31.05.07, 15:31   ) sagt...

除卻巫山不是雲
怎忍心卿卿為我
妒火中燒



:: Blogger Yun (02.06.07, 03:46   ) sagt...

I don't feel she (袁彌明) was all that regretful of what she said about Stephy. I mean, she doesn't have to. This is a skillful piece, so skillful that I don't find any sincerity in it. For her behavior, first she blamed the HK education system; then blamed it was her "emotion" that spoke out. Well, not bad loh.

"By the time I got to University, I discovered that I was not so dumb after all. In fact, I think if the same opportunity was given to Stephy, she would have done even better than I did."

I think she was still saying Stephy is dumb loh...

Anyway, I had no idea who 袁彌明 is (Miss HK?!) or little idea of who Stephy is... but, this letter is defintely very 圓滑.世界女也.



:: Blogger 米生 (02.06.07, 04:39   ) sagt...

唔鐘意一個人,串佢,係正常不過,根本無咩問題喎,除非串唔起。

理論上,我覺得袁小姐大可以堅持原則,無需道歉,只不過出得黎行,表面上道個歉,實際上堅持原則,無傷大雅jei。



:: Blogger sidekick (05.06.07, 03:53   ) sagt...

小踢, 很久沒有聯絡, 沒想到你會過來打打招呼呢.
<-o下? 弊, 我一直覺得同你好熟添~ :p
你知, 我o地呢班, 文照讀, 言未必會留.
呢樣o野, 我估大家都心照o左好耐, 斷年計咯~



:: Blogger sf (06.06.07, 02:35   ) sagt...

小踢, CDROM及general practice, 當然大家心照啦. 我見你的side-link已沒有連結這裡, 所以沒料到會見到你留言.

yun, i fully agree with you. that's what i noticed, and find it "interesting".

米生, 對呀, 也不是甚麼大不了的事, 不過茶餘飯後話題而已. 對我來說, 我有興趣的不過是這兩個女孩子之間誰是誰非, 反正不是甚麼回事. 我有興趣的, 只是這封公開信的說話方式.



:: Blogger sidekick (10.06.07, 18:12   ) sagt...

係?弊!
my links 個page係bloglines 舊版,而家用google reader,冇更新頁面d link好耐... btw, 即但如是,我冇印象咁多年o黎unsubscribe 過你o番, 真係奇怪...



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